I will post a lot about strength. Personal strength and strength as a woman for sure, because it is my point of reference. (I am a headstrong, accomplished, boisterous, independent, sometimes spontaneous, all the time opinionated woman.) However, I feel it is of value to underline the importance of an undeniable truth. One that this world tends to forget at times.

Yes, we are ALL here to lead in some way, but right now, I want to concentrate on the concept of men in a leadership role in a relationship. A wise woman understands the fact that there is a level of authority that was set down at the beginning of time. Don’t freak out on me just yet. A spiritually immature person runs from this, disregards it and gets angry at the thought, but stay with me for a minute. Hear me out. This is not about lording over someone or asserting power. Quite the opposite actually. This is about lovingly SERVING. A true leader serves. There is just no other way to explain it. Our families and ultimately, our society fails when good men do not see their true value. When they do not take the hand of the One who can guide them and when they do not give a hand to the ones they are there to guide.

When this happens, especially in marriages, unfortunately women see no other option, but to step up and take on the male role as a method of survival and by all means, for every one of us women who have ever walked through that season, I truly and deeply commend you. I have done it. Many of us have.

However, what I am saying when I refer to an “order” of how it should go is that we all have a role to play. A woman should not have to take on both roles and honestly, a man should not have to either. We each have such crucial parts to play. Puzzle pieces that are created to fit so intrinsically together to make the whole scenario function more smoothly.

Women, no matter how successful they are, no matter how accomplished they are, need a partner to understand their role, recognize when it is needed and step up and assume that position. (I know, let the feminists start lighting their torches to come chase me down now. If they do, they will have completely missed the point.)

Mentally and spiritually healthy women desperately desire a strong man. A confident man. A leader. One who is observant of what needs to be done and takes the initiative and responsibility to do it.

When this happens, they can feel secure in focusing on the rest of the responsibilities of the partnership. Whether it is nurturing and teaching children, building a household, building a family business, promoting the dream that they have together and so much more.

Being physically attractive or financially stable, or having a powerful job, may be attractive to the world, but again.. when a woman becomes spiritually mature and truly sees what she and her children need… she realizes that a strong, humble, spiritual leader is truly where it all begins.

The most attractive thing in the world to a woman is a true leader. A man who serves from the heart. A man who serves his God. Serves his family and does it in such a way that he is unashamed. Men, if you want to truly be sexy to a woman, this is what you must be.

A spiritually mature woman’s sexy list:

• Love God
• Humble yourself before Him and serve ALL around you humbly and without expectation
• Learn and strive for that which you are passionate about. (This is true confidence and maturity)

Everything else will come. It will all fall into place.

And here’s the great part. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT!!!!  (Side note – secret: sometimes your imperfections can be pretty sexy to us as well.)

Oh and one more thing…. it is said that a woman needs love and a man needs respect. To a man, respect IS love. Men, I promise you, if you are this man, the one described here, the right woman will not only respect you, but will never, ever consider looking at another man. True story. You will be her prince charming.

Even better news!!

You are not meant to do it alone. You can’t it is just not possible. When you feel like you cannot do it on your own, that is OK. You are not supposed to. You always, always have someone there to help. No matter how hard it gets.